But not the last post of this blog, because now I’m finally on holiday and will keep you updated about Montreal of course!
It feels very weird that I’m leaving tomorrow though and rather won’t come back, at least not in the nearest future.
It has been an awesome time! I’ve learned a lot during my internship, I met very interesting and nice people both at uni and on the climbing trips and I also learned a lot in terms of climbing. I really like this area and I’m a bit sad of leaving everyone again but at the same time I am also very much looking forward to seeing my friends in England again.
So here comes a short summary of the last week: It has been mainly determined by my stupid phone. I went to that phone shop where I left it on Sunday on Thursday again and asked about the phone and that stupid guy said that he forgot about it! It made me incredibly angry and I said I’m leaving on Sunday. I didn’t know what to do and it made me so angry that I started crying outside which made me even angrier because I don’t like anyone to see me crying. I asked a random man for a cigarette and another guy passed by and asked me for a fag but I didn’t have any. He still said that I’m beautiful which made me happy again, because I don’t think I looked very beautiful at that point haha. And by the way, dear male readers, although I wasn’t interested in that guy, that’s an ok way to talk to a girl! It’s not annoying catcalling in my opinion. But it really depends on the situation, sometimes even that may be annoying but at that point I needed something nice. I ubered my way through until I ended in a phone shop where I returned today. For a short time it seemed like the phone was working but now it’s not anymore which is very annoying… At least the guy in the second shop didn’t charge much because he feared that it might stop working again but still very annoying. I don’t like not having a phone, I like the idea of being able to call if necessary and set an alarm (doesn’t really work on my laptop) and google maps if for me really useful… Well, at least I have a watch and a laptop and a camera but still, I guess I need to get a new phone, and that very soon, which is annoying, because I spent so much money on the repairs (including the ubers) and now I need to get a new phone, and the spendings do annoy me, because I need to watch my money, but well, I can’t change it… I don’t know, I guess I learned not to get that horribly annoyed about things that I can’t change. It’s a good thing I’ve learned that!
Apart from that, I don’t feel that I did that much for uni this week. Yesterday, on my last day, I felt like I didn’t end things properly. Well, with the CRT I did about everything what I was supposed to do I guess but with the EEG experiment I didn’t finish the analysis. But then I have to remind myself that it’s not my fault, I needed processed data for that and I didn’t get them in time. I will finish the analysis in Birmingham but it would have been nicer to start the holiday with that work finished and start in Birmingham with new things… At least this internship gave me good ideas how to process with my PhD when I’m back in Birmingham. I want to do more projects, I’m quite motivated actually! I especially want to work on that neuroimaging stuff, that’s quite important nowadays for psychologists.
On Monday Joo-Hyun invited us for lunch, very kind of her. I provided Printen (the gingerbread from Aachen) on the lab meeting yesterday, they liked them a lot, it’s nice. Yesterday was 1st September, Anti-War-Day (which I always celebrate, just like the end of World War II), so my contribution on that day were cupcakes in the style of a black forest cherry cake, I provided them for my house. They liked them but I wasn’t 100% happy but it’s hard that I’m 100% happy with anything I do anyway… Here’s a pic before I put the topping on:
And with the topping:
My mum asked for pics of the uni, I don’t know, I didn’t feel like taking lots of pics of the uni 😛 But here, that was where I was based:
On Thursday I got a Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream in a Ben & Jerry’s shop. 😛 A huge sin but so good! I thought once I’m in the US I need to get it. 😛 I also did a lot of sport this week, so at least I worked all that food off. Actually I exaggerated a bit too much, I did sport for 6 days in a row (from Saturday till Thursday), yesterday was a day off and today I did sport again. My muscles were aching a lot on Thursday… Friederike, my German flatmate, was really surprised how much sport I do. Well, here comes the difference between me and other sport fanatics. I don’t do it to look good or to impress men. Well, I like a sporty look but doesn’t need to be huge muscles, also for men that’s not necessary I think. But I certainly don’t do it to impress men. I want to be fit and good at climbing, that’s all. Well, and the reason I did so much sport this week was because I will do less in Montreal and because I was so happy that my ankle is finally ok again! I also went climbing indoors on Tuesday, I’m back at my old level, that felt so good.
Yesterday I did a small good-bye party. Not people turned up but actually that was ok. Ken, Michol and David from the climbing crew came and it was a very nice evening. Actually it was good that it wasn’t a huge group because I always feel awkward in big groups and I find it hard to talk then. We went to a bar called „The Hot Club“- weird name but actually very nice, with a big sitting area outside at the water. I will definitely miss the water, it smelled so nice of the sea. The canals in Birmingham aren’t the same… Here are some pics:
And here, that’s us:
And a pic David took:
They actually had interesting conversations about relationships and they said it’s definitely better to be alone than to be desperately with someone just to not be alone. That’s absolutely my point. Here comes something personal I admit, I started with online dating a few months ago. I refused that for quite long but then I found it hard to meet people who are not just young students. Well, I like that you can chat with so many different people but my views on that are a bit different, I guess with some people I could be perfectly friends but not in a relationship but they all expect a relationship I guess. Sometimes it turns me off when they imagine of doing all sort of things with me, often even in their first message! I mean it’s not about anything sexual, but why imagining hikes with me if I don’t know if I want to go hiking with them?? (I bet they read it in weird relationship guides, that women like those messages. Sorry, guys, we don’t like it. At least I don’t.) Then I think a relationship is such a great adventure because it develops over time and you don’t know where it will lead to. But those expectations turn me off. Sometimes I’m still on that site just because it’s funny but mostly I’ve been avoiding it recently. I think I sent the link of the blog to some of them, they might be reading it, and even the person I will now talk about might read it, but I don’t mind: There’s been one person with whom I’ve been writing a lot, and for the first time it seems like there are topics to talk about (although, weirdly, we don’t have the same political opinion and even not that many hobbies in common). There’s the same sense of humour, which is probably more important than whether the other person is as much into climbing as I am. What I enjoy the most is that there’s not this huge expectation of future. We will hopefully meet when I come back and then see. I’ve not always been that relaxed but you just have to wait and see how things develop.
So, my experience from online dating is that I feel sorry how needy some men are! It’s a huge turn-off, just as an advice.
Today I walked a bit along Wickenden Street. I’ve seen this street before and thought it has nice shops. There were also many nice cafes (hipster-like :P) and I thought it’s a shame I didn’t come here before. I had a coffee though at a place that Melanie recommended, it was indeed very good. I was sitting outside and I thought it’s actually not bad not to always have a phone- you can enjoy the moment much more without a phone. Luckily I didn’t buy much, my suitcase is very full anyway, probably I can’t buy much in Montreal either… I got a CD for a dollar though, was on the off chance but I actually even like the music:
I also discovered a church (Portuguese I think) and wanted to go inside, I’m getting old, wanting to see churches haha, but it was closed. On the pic it doesn’t look as nice as it actually did:
I also took a pic of the sculptures for my mum, she likes sculptures and she’s reading the blog pretty regularly 😛
And here’s a picture of the water:
By the way, those Germans flatmates turned out to be pretty nice! They started to ask about my day and I was supposed to go to see the water fireworks with them that sometimes happen in Providence, but unfortunately they weren’t on today. I don’t know why they were so weird at the beginning, maybe because everything was new to them and because they were jet-lagged but it’s good that they were nice, made the last days more enjoyable.
Ok, that was it from the US! I will keep you updated about Montreal though as I promised!